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I am not sure how legitimate some of these Reddit Ask Me Anything Interviews are, but here is one with a diagnosed sociopath who sounds like he is indeed telling the truth. The whole thing is worth a read through. Here are some good sociopath explanations:
How to avoid pissing guys like him off:
Honestly, you would have to go through some serious effort to piss me off. My emotions in general are pretty muted.
That said, not pissing off people like me doesn’t make you safe from people like me. What I do to other people (stealing, lying, vandalism, etc.) has nothing to do with what they do to me and everything to do with keeping myself entertained. In fact, I tend to target the people who are kind to me, not because they are kind to me, but because I’m around them more.
If you’re useful to me or helpful, I won’t do anything that would ruin that (by making you not like me). But if there is someone like me around you, you probably don’t know, so it’s kind of stupid going around making yourself useful to people because one of them might be a sociopath.
Honestly, it’s very difficult for me not to lie; I keep almost lying as I write these answers, even though I want to tell the truth here to see people’s reactions. At least once a day I tell a lie and then secretly curse to myself because I told a lie that might backfire. So in short, I lie even when it’s counterproductive.
On How to Lie Well:
1. Tell the person what they want to hear.
2. Tell something close to the truth.
3. Look the person in the eye and say it with the appropriate emotion.
On Learning to Fake Emotions:
By looking at what other people do. I do actually feel some emotions, though usually not the appropriate emotions for a situation, and I can sometimes channel them into faking the right emotion. When I was small, I could fake tears of remorse because I was afraid of being punished.
Other ones it’s just practice. I can fake excitement pretty well. The really difficult one for me is sadness, because funerals aren’t often. When people are crying I have no idea what I’m supposed to do because I can’t cry on demand.
The other thing to realize is that sociopaths imitating emotion isn’t usually a conscious decision. We do it kind of naturally to fit in, like how kids respond to advertising.
There are six universal emotions: happiness, sadness, anger, fear, disgust and surprise. All of these except for the first have some kind of negative connotation to them. Is happiness the opposite of all of the bad ones? I think bravery, acceptance/appreciation, completeness, appreciation, jealousy, shame/guilt, pride and intrigue are all complete complex emotions that deserve their own free standing existences.
In Germany they have an emotion called Schadenfreude, “pleasure derived from the misfortunes of others.” Americans seem to be all over this one judging from our television shows and movies. The Honey Boo Boo Child is a good example of this. We love getting our Lawlz at the expense of people like this:
While we have our trashy delights, eastern cultures have an opposite emotion, Mudita, which is a genuine joy that comes from others’ well being. I like to think Americans are all about this too but I think our sense of entitlement gets in the way. In recent times being in the “one percent” is generally not looked upon with anything but contempt. If you can accept that life isn’t fair you’re going to be able to appreciate the Hiltons, the Kardashians, the Kennedys and the Rockefellers of the world. We seem to experience a lot more “Freudenschade”, which is sorrow at another person’s success.
Here is a list of more culturally specific emotions from the Wikipedia:
Amae (Japan): Feeling of dependency akin to what infants feel towards their mothers. Important for bonding individuals to each other and cherished institutions.
Awumbuk (Baining of Papua New Guinea): Sadness, tiredness or boredom caused by the departure of visitors, friends or relatives.
Fago (Ifaluk): A combination of love, compassion and sadness.
Gezellig (the Netherlands): Similar meaning to English word ‘cozy’, but occurring in the presence of other people, very similar to the German word Gemütlich/Gesellig.
Ijirashii (Japan): Arising when seeing someone praiseworthy overcome an obstacle.
Ker (Ifaluk): Pleasant surprise.
Liget (Ilongot people): Aroused by situations of grief but closely related to anger, can inspire headhunting expeditions.
Malu (Dusun Baguk, Malaysia): Overlapping of shame and embarrassment, can be elicited by being in the presence of a person of higher rank.
Nginyiwarrarringu (Pintupi Aborigines of the Western Australian Desert): A sudden fear that leads one to stand up to see what caused it.
Rus (Ifaluk): Unpleasant surprise.
Song (Ifaluk people, Micronesia): Close to anger, or admonition, with moralistic overtones and no disposition to revenge.
Sram (Russia): Shame specifically focused on sexual indecency, originating in religious discourse—also used as a noun denoting pudenda, or to prefix a location name in which sexual activity occurs (such as a red light district)
Vergüenza Ajena / Pena Ajena: Also known as ‘Spanish Shame’—sense of shame on behalf of another person, even though that person may not experience shame themselves—for example, cringing when watching a very bad comic—generally more intense when the other is well known to you, though possible even when you dislike the other person—similar to the Dutch term plaatsvervangende schaamte and the German term Fremdschämen— ‘external shame’ or ‘vicarious embarrassment’, being vicariously embarrassed by someone else. The humor enacted by video clips of very bad auditions for televised talent shows leverage the vicarious pain of this emotion.
It is interesting how many of these are negative. Although this is completely against what everyone with a degree or some kind of credentials says, I think sociopaths are much more pleasant in general, perhaps because they don’t experience any of these complicated emotions, most of which revolve around anger or shame. From the list above, I’d rather deal with a sociopath than someone from Ifaluk any day of the week.
If you can pry your attention away from the plastic surgery elegance and pay attention to what these two broads are actually saying, they do offer some good but boring advice on how to not get too involved with a sociopath: just don’t sign any papers too soon:
I like that advice because it’s pretty much what my final word is: don’t put anything on the table that you don’t want to lose. This isn’t very romantic but you can always fix a broken heart. Mortgages, student loans, personal loans, things requiring signatures, are bitches to get out of.
It seems like common sense not to sign anything too quick but it happens a lot, it happened to me. Lesson learned. In this day and age of flakes and rampant irresponsibility it’s a good idea not to intermingle your credit with anyone’s, period.
Here is better advice on how to avoid getting stuck with a sociopath, or anyone who isn’t good for your to be with: Stop taking yourself so seriously. If you step back and look at your relationship, check it up and down and realize that it’s not the amazing fairy tale that you think it is. No relationship is, there are always problems somewhere. Look at where you were before you got involved with this person and where you are now: Where were you happier? When did you have a better future ahead of you (socially, financially, spiritually)? Don’t consider promises of better futures, there are a lot of liars in the world, sociopaths or not.
Looking at your present is a great indicator of your future. Self awareness is the best way to avoid any kind of negative presence in your life.
Tom said to himself that it was not such a hollow world, after all. He had discovered a great law of human action, without knowing it — namely, that in order to make a man or a boy covet a thing, it is only necessary to make the thing difficult to attain. If he had been a great and wise philosopher, like the writer of this book, he would now have comprehended that Work consists of whatever a body is OBLIGED to do, and that Play consists of whatever a body is not obliged to do. And this would help him to understand why constructing artificial flowers or performing on a tread-mill is work, while rolling ten-pins or climbing Mont Blanc is only amusement. There are wealthy gentlemen in England who drive four-horse passenger-coaches twenty or thirty miles on a daily line, in the summer, because the privilege costs them considerable money; but if they were offered wages for the service, that would turn it into work and then they would resign.
-The Adventures of Tom Sawyer
I like the idea of putting a bunch of psychopaths together but I feel like this movie is going to do it all wrong.
I.S. has been diagnosed with Anti-Social Personality Disorder twice, by two different psychologists on two different occasions. He has had more wives and girlfriends than anyone I know, often concurrently. He gets a kick out of living multiple lives, my professional take on it is that he has a very evident lack of respect for women and this is perpetuated by how well he plays his game. I believe that he is being very truthful with his answers:
Does being in a monogamous relationship bore or annoy you? Both. Being with one person is boring and it gets annoying being with a boring person all the time.
Would you be able to remain monogamous if you absolutely respected the person you were involved with? No, I have been involved with someone I respected, after a certain point the sexual thrill is gone. Half of the point of intercourse is getting to that point, it’s like beating a level if a videogame. I don’t want to play the same level of the videogame over and over again. That’s why they are designed that way.
What kind of women are the easiest to seduce and which are the hardest? The easiest are the ones that are put in a position where they have something to gain by pleasing you. The hardest part of the conquest is manipulating the nature of the relationship from work to something more personal, and when you get it to that level you can get whatever you want. You call it mirroring, find what they want and be it and you’re in. Treat them like the person you want them to be and they will become it. The hardest women to seduce are ones I actually like. I let myself get in the way of accomplishing what I set out to do. I end up trying too hard and then game doesn’t work very well. I end up sending mixed signals. There is no type of woman that is hard to seduce and certainly none that I’ve come across that can’t be seduced.
Do you cheat because you actively pursue your leads or are you more of an opportunist? Opportunity is everywhere, it’s only a matter of deciding which one to go for. I usually go after the lowest hanging fruit. It’s all about reading people, instantly I can tell what I would have to do to make it happen, I can see the game plan. I can tell within three minutes whether or not all it would take would be to send a sexy text message or whether or not it would be a long, involved process.
Do you/have you ever felt guilty for betraying your wife/fiancé/girlfriend? No, the first time I cheated on my wife I felt like how it feels when you write a check that is going to bounce. Once the check bounces, you feel fine. It’s somewhat of an anxiety but it passes very quickly.
How does the guilt feel to you? There are different ways I feel guilt. Some things I feel genuinely guilty about but playing this game with women is not one.
Do you ever resolve to change your ways? No, I don’t think I can change. If something awful happened like I got AIDS I would stop but you can cure everything else with a pill.
What is the largest number of women you have actively been involved with at any one time? Seven, in a relationship. There are varying levels of involvement. I am always pursuing two or so more as well.
What do you find most challenging about being a serial sleaze? Time management and keeping my stories straight. I am usually telling four different people four different stories about where I am at any one time, you have to keep your “facts” straight or it is easy to slip up.
Are you afraid to get caught? No. I am never going to get caught.
How do you imagine you would feel if you were caught? I never consider this possibility. It’s especially fun if two women I’m sleeping with know each other, I enjoy watching how they interact with each other. I count on the fact that nobody is going to just come out and say “I’m banging the boss.” It never happens.
What is more appealing to you, the actual sex or the chase? The chase. The sex usually isn’t usually that enjoyable. I’m getting better at making things more kinky for myself so I enjoy the act more. I like to feel like an out of control animal, now when I’m fucking someone I get the urge to beat the fuck out of everyone around me.
Do you think all men are like you? No. I like to hope not. I don’t think this is just a testosterone thing.
Do ever attach to someone through sex? No, there is no bond. They become less appealing after I’ve had sex with them, if anything.
What do you look for in a relationship vs. someone to bang: I feel like I’m parasitic when it comes to relationships, I look for situations where I get all of the benefits and have to pay nothing. I’m an emotional con artist. I am perfect until it becomes work then I bail.
Here is some information about the jackass who thought it would be a good idea to shoot up the batman movie. Things like this don’t shock me because the idea of crowded movie theaters on opening nights with few exits and a lot of people sitting in the dark brings out the paranoid lunatic in me: I don’t trust dense crowds. It’s a sad thing that the paranoid lunatic is gaining credibility.
I wouldn’t be surprised if this guy ends up being called a sociopath as well, his own mother doesn’t seem surprised: “You have the right person”. The Columbine shooter, Eric Harris, was a disgruntled psychopath who wanted to fit in:
Harris, who conceived the attacks, was more than just troubled. He was, psychologists now say, a cold-blooded, predatory psychopath — a smart, charming liar with “a preposterously grand superiority complex, a revulsion for authority and an excruciating need for control…One of Harris’ last journal entries read: “I hate you people for leaving me out of so many fun things. And no don’t … say, ‘Well that’s your fault,’ because it isn’t, you people had my phone #, and I asked and all, but no. No no no don’t let the weird-looking Eric KID come along.”
As he walked into the school the morning of April 20, Harris’ T-shirt read: Natural Selection.
The Columbine kids were angry with the American way of life (and this went down during the golden Clinton years, imagine what they would think now!) and chose to shoot their friends and classmates and go down in infamy forever or until a more violent and memorable crime replaces their names with the next. Whatever reason this batman shooter had to put this together and pull it off is probably similar, he apparently dropped out of medical school last month. However by protesting society in the manner that they did, they make everything much worse. People blame capitalism and greed for all of our current problems but I think fear is the reason we’re in the economic/social crisis we’re in.
If someone would have had a gun in that theater, Colorado allows you to carry a concealed weapon if you have a permit, this could have been a much smaller tragedy. If someone would have had a gun on the September 11th flight, that could have been an American victory! Not all crimes can be prevented with guns but a lot of them can. America needs to stop acting like a victim, take the old George Bush pre-emptive strike and encourage citizens to be prepared and willing to fight back. There is a brilliant article at MeshEcon that explains the idea better than I can.
I am actually glad the fucker didn’t kill himself so we can hopefully learn more about what causes people to do such things. As a sad endnote, since we’re all going to have a sad Friday anyway, it seems that at least a quarter of the main news articles on the subject of this shooting are about the effect it is going to have on the profits of the batman movie. Oh Mmmerrrca…
• Have a strong attention-seeking personality: A lot of people are incapable of making the distinction between pity and praise. There is a difference between recounting the hardships of your past to someone in a similar situation in order to help them and fishing for people to react to you with “I’m so sorry that happened to you!”. Instead of doing good things that people will compliment you on, get that attention you need and deserve by pointing out all the bad things that have been done to you.
• Dwell on how powerless you are in this big world that is likely run by evil, evil people and evil forces and also capitalist corporations. You’re not responsible for the problems of the world that have seeped over into your own realm so there’s no need to take responsibility for the ones that affect you.
• There is good and bad in the world and if what happened to you was bad then you must be good. Your ideas are good and therefore right and whoever opposes you is wrong and therefore bad. Don’t listen to anyone’s jive that doesn’t flow with your own.
• Pay careful attention to the people whose lives around you are going better than your own. You are entitled to anything anyone else has no matter how hard they worked for it so you have every right to be bitter about it. Avoid thinking about people who live in third world countries who know what it feels like to starve or have to drink water out of the Ganges River. Your life and the bad things that happen to you are worse.
Tom Cruise has always had a look like something is big time off with him. His shenanigans on Oprah prove he’s either insane or retarded or on bigtime drugs, which he’s likely not since that sort of fun doesn’t fly in Scientology.
I’ve never paid much attention to these two because he turns me off in a way that only Hot Pockets have before. When I found out his wife is divorcing him I thought he’s got to be either a narcissist or a sociopath, I am sure it will come out soon one way or another.
Men don’t jump around on couches on the Oprah program. He’s so fake, the only thing grosser than his act is how the audience eats it up, hooting and hee hawing like barnyard animals. If you watch the clip above look at how he shoves his wife around and controls her every move. Gossip websites like D-listed have been wise to this from the very beginning.
Here’s the case for him being a sociopath: Upon running “Tom Cruise Sociopath” through the Google, I found out that the Patrick Bateman character in American Psycho was based off of a Tom Cruise appearance on the David Letterman program. Clearly a lot of people can smell psycho on this guy. His sexuality has largely been questioned with hilarity ensues:
Sociopaths are sexually ambiguous, which the entire internet seems to believe him to be (except for my mom who says he can’t be gay because he’s married. My how the tides have changed, mother.). He’s as phony as they come and doesn’t seem very genuine with his emotions:
But he doesn’t seem very scheming nor does he seem self aware which pushes him into the narcissist corner. His actions don’t seem calculated, they seem grandiose and self-serving. Unless he was making money off of it, not pouring a big (maybe not so big, percentage-wise) chunk of his income into it, no sociopath would have anything to do with that mess they call Scientology. It immediately outs you as a weirdo and that doesn’t fly with the MO of a sociopath. Scientology is all about “becoming a god” and the only thing I can think of that would be more appealing to a narcissist than becoming a god is talking to a room full of people about becoming a god.
Either way, Katie Holmes made a good move today.
1. People ask you what you see in this person. If this question EVER comes up, consider that the biggest red flag you can ever hope you’ll never see. That question takes balls to ask, I’ve had to ask it to several of my people. It never goes over well but when you get the old fashioned feeling that something parasitic is before you, my money would be on the probability that you are right.
2. Your life is worse in the relationship than when it was before the relationship. The best measurement of this is your happiness, your energy levels, the amount of time and enjoyment you get out of hobbies and interests that excited you pre-relationship. Also worth considering: your finances, your family, your friends, your looks (stress kills beauty), your life-path, your health, bad habits (drinking, smoking, shooting up smack, snorting cocaine off of hookers’ taints, etc.). Take two stacks of index cards and briefly describe these situations before you got in the relationship and now. Now put them side by side. Take away the worse of each column and add up the points. It should be clear.
3. Time for a mental vacation. This is only in your mind and will only last until you are done reading this bullet point on my blog. Be completely honest: Imagine what your favorite place in the world is or may be. Perhaps it’s Hawaii or Saint Tropez or Dubai or the Chipotle Burrito shop if you’re a sick fucking fuck. Imagine you’ve won an all-expense-paid trip there and you can take whoever you want, it’s going to be sexy and romantic, the champagne will be flowing, there will be majestic sunsets and cool inviting breezes. Money will be no thing, you can have the best of the best that this place has to offer. Close your eyes and put yourself where you want to be more than anywhere else in the world. Who is there with you? If it’s not your questionable partner, you need a break from them and that’s not a good sign.
4. You find yourself lying about that person or making up excuses for them to your friends and family. Ever. Even once.
5. You have, even a single time, found yourself drunk and unhappier than you were sober. I was going to say except in the case that you’ve had a few to cool off after a fight but I think I wish to change that to ESPECIALLY if you’ve just had a few because you just had a fight. In vino veritas.
6. Take a good hard look at things you hate but find yourself doing because your partner wants to. Do you find yourself paying ten bucks a pop to go see Ryan Gossling movies more frequently than you find yourself at tailgate parties with the boys? Or whatever the opposite of that would be for women?
7. Do you consider ANY of your friends’ or co-workers relationships better than yours? That’s not normal in our narcissistic society. You’re supposed to feel that you have the best of everything that is not legitimately measureable like car brand or house square footage.