Sociopaths: Are They Capable Of Falling In Love?

Have you met someone or have fallen for someone who is diagnosed with a disorder? Did you ever ask yourself if your soul mate, the person you adore, desire, love, and maybe can live without is a sociopath? If you have been reading or watching criminal documentaries and series, sociopaths are the serial killers, not psychopaths. These people have no remorse when they kill, unlike psychopaths who have that realization moment after they have done the deed.

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Sociopaths usually act like they are such caring people. They “show” that they can provide warmth, kindness, joy, and even affection. To others, this seems like they are in love. But if you take a closer look, a sociopath is defined as the person who has an antisocial personality disorder. An individual with that disorder is characterized by lacking in empathy. “A sociopath is not trustworthy or dependable and has few friends and hollow relationships.  Sociopaths can be incredibly deceptive and have the tendency to be disloyal to their mates.” said  Tracy Smith LPC, NCC, ACS. With their sociopathic characteristics, it’s very unnerving that someone like this can look very similar to a person indeed in love. This is very baffling, so, ask yourself, “Are they capable of loving?”

Are They Capable Of Loving, Or Being In A State Of “Falling In Love?”

To answer that question, we have to make the meaning of love suitable as to the way sociopaths understand it. How? Well, for them, love is like controlling and manipulating people. With that distorted thinking, we can claim that sociopaths are capable of loving and being in love.

Sociopaths are capable of loving when:

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  • Love is an instrument used to trick and dominate someone.
  • Love is more feigned than experienced and serves as an ulterior motive.
  • Love is like a letter written in water rather than emotions felt by the heart.
  • Love is a feeling of entitlement and authority rather than sentiment and endearment.
  • Love is a promise told for gain rather than an expression of commitment and security.
  • Love is equal with sex as a mere brief and insincere sexual pleasure, and not the lovemaking of two sacred people being as one.
  • Love involves seeing others only as targets and opportunities.

To a sociopath, real love is a love of himself, supremacy, and the game of life. When love is a deep feeling of affection, sensitivity, closeness, and connection between people, then, sociopaths are not capable of that. The real essence of love is impossible for a sociopath.

What Is it Like Falling In Love With Or Loving A Sociopath?

A sociopath is a predator, who charms his victim with great motive because he senses the chance for his advancement. To win a person’s trust, he will start with the courtship and shapes her identity to match that of her victim, a perfect fit, like finding a soul mate.

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But as soon as he gets bored and gets what he wants, the thrill is gone, and he moves on. It can be abrupt, leaving the victim confused and hurt. “A sociopath can be really good at faking feelings of love,” Darrel Turner, PhD , a forensic psychologist from Louisiana said, “It’s common when a sociopath enters into a relationship to behave very lovingly or otherwise affectionately toward their partner—at least at the beginning.”

It is possible to be in love with a sociopath. But can they love back? Yes, but only by his definition of love, a cunning, heartless, and detached kind of love. Some people seem to have no regard for others and can cause harm to them without any regret or feelings of guilt. When this behavior is pervasive, a person may have a chronic mental health condition known as antisocial personality disorder. Sometimes people with antisocial personality disorder are called “sociopaths,” said Kathleen Smith, PhD, LPC.

So, if someone tells you that sociopaths can love or is capable of falling in love, DO NOT BELIEVE THIS PERSON. Sociopaths do not understand the real meaning of love, for they are selfish and think only of themselves.

 

Our Sociopathic Society

There was never sociopathology in the eyes of some sociopaths, and others try to expand their understanding of themselves.   Self-mastery is their craft.

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Battlefield Is In Us

We have come to the era where the battle of the minds and hearts reveal that it was never the battle of arms.  It is the battle in your mind, and that it is vicious.   It is intense, unrelenting, and it is unfair because Satan never plays fair.  And the reason why it is so fierce is that your greatest asset is your mind.  The Invisible War (1965), Donald Grey Barnhouse.

 

Impulsive Antisociality

A sociopathic person’s real deal was to redefine and unfollow the set of standards, rules that bend you to follow.

The mind of a sociopath cannot entirely be understood, the mere fact that they are classed as anti-social in our society is just one of the reasons why they don’t want you to subject them. According to Daniel J Winarick Ph.D., “Antisocial does not mean shy, withdrawn, detached, loner, or quiet. The “social” in antisocial refers to social norms and rules. Individuals with ASPD have no regard for the rules, norms, and laws of society.”

Studies show that in every 100 adults, three are sociopaths. Different factors characterize sociopathic behavior, and there are reasons why they act the way they do.

Sociopaths tend to violate the rights of others without feeling guilty about it because the disorder makes them lose their moral ground to subject what is good and what is just.  They have a sense of deceitfulness, and they love manipulating others to get their wants or desires.  Sheri Jacobson, Ph.D  said in an online article that, “Sociopaths are willing to sacrifice other people’s comfort in order to pursue their selfish goals. They may use manipulation or aggression as a means to get what they want. Simply put, they put themselves above anything else, and they are not afraid to use whatever means necessary to satisfy their own needs.” They are incredibly charming at convincing you to have what they want, disregarding what is right to others, intentionally breaking the laws without reason or the mere fact that this gives them a sense of satisfaction.  A sociopathic person is incapable of understanding what others might feel. The inability to empathize makes it easy for them to manipulate and deceive you.

 

Not All Are A Nuisance To The Society

Sociopaths have two sides, the well-functioning and the less. The well-functioned sociopaths have a ground in society.  They manage to contribute something new to the world whether it is bad or good.  Sociopaths who are also community members encourage the nation to bring the best out of them continually. By doing so, they give immoral acts or unorthodox ones. To test how far the community can go, they either cause pandemonium and wrongdoings and the fact that chaos breeds order is always in their mind. “It is true that there are high functioning sociopaths,” said Kathleen Smith, PhD, LPC. “But they are not the norm.”

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The Brain Is A Mysterious Puzzle

We cannot say that sociopaths are incapable of achieving what an average person can do, but some can and they will. The mind of a sociopath is exceptionally complicated. You might wonder, “What could be the thoughts of a person who is without moral ground?” They never base their survival on moral acts; it’s always about the survival of the fittest.  The greatest enemy is the human mind, the complications it has, and the rationality of our beings depends on how we see and perceive what reality to us is.

The judging eyes of others are enough to create a sociopathic behavior in any person. The truth that we are just another brick in the wall by the so-called “elites” is enough cause to have a sociopathic behavior. The real question, therefore, is, “How well can we manage to bend at ease with sociopaths around us?”

Are You Friends With A Sociopath? Know The Signs

A sociopath doesn’t always look like the main character from “Dexter.” Just like any other disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder takes place on the scale. Sociopathy is a real condition. Sociopaths don’t always equate to serial killers. Study shows that 3.8% of people from the US are diagnosed with ASP. And it is very unlikely not to be friends with one having this condition.

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This well-known psychiatry professor at the University Of Iowa Carver, says, “It’s a syndrome characterized by lifelong misbehavior.” He also added that people suffering from ASP have a habit of being impulsive and deceitful and at the same time does not have a conscience.

According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, below are the signs that signify Sociopathy.

Relationship Struggle

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People are suffering from Antisocial Personality Disorder struggle with forming emotional bonds, which makes their relationships unstable. They would rather exploit people around them for their advantage, instead of creating a more profound link with them. A person with ASP may want to connect with others, but he has one thing in mind – he will form a superficial relationship and use that person for something. According to Preston Ni M.S.B.A., “In personal relationships, sociopaths  often initially entice with their superficial charisma and calculated charm, before revealing their cruel and uncaring nature over time (i.e., after a committed relationship is established or an important agreement is made). They deceive, manipulate, and abuse in relationships without remorse, leaving their victims wounded and traumatized by their utter lack of decency and empathy.”

Less Empathy

Those people experiencing ASP are well-known for their lack of empathy. A deep-seated rage is at their core and mostly are not able to feel any guilt for their actions. Black mentioned that when a person doesn’t feel remorse, they are freed to doing anything unpleasant that may take place in their minds.

Being Manipulative

They may appear very charming yet secretly aggressive and domineering. They see people as tools that they can use for their advantage, and they are not remorseful of it.

Aggression

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Sociopaths are aggressive because they interpret the behavior of others as such, which makes them want to get vengeance. It is their thinking, and most of the time, it is not correct that other people are showing aggression towards them. “The driving force with sociopaths (and they have lots of energy) is to dominate others. This may or may not involve breaking the law. They want to dominate people in order to get things from them, such as their possessions, money, sex, business partners, homes, cars, investments, reputation and so forth,” said Bill Eddy LCSW, JD.

Insensitivity

People with Antisocial Personality Disorder shows no concern about the results of their actions and how it would be of effect to others. They are that insensitive, as long as they are getting what they want, and when they want it.

Impulsivity

Every individual has that “impulse” decision at times, but for sociopaths, it is normal to be unreasonably impulsive and spontaneous. As Kathleen Smith, PhD, LPC said,  sociopath “..are at high risk of incarceration due to impulsive behaviors. They’re also likely to have a shorter life expectancy due to impulsive behaviors like substance abuse and criminal activity.”

Being Deceitful

Those who are affected by Antisocial Personality Disorder have no problem lying calmly and easily. They often exaggerate things when it is beneficial for them. Being truthful is impossible for them.

Being Irresponsible

Sociopathic patients are usually indifferent to responsibilities, and they are ignoring normal obligations as they pile up. They don’t care about it.

Having Risky Behavior

Sociopaths often find themselves being involved in risky behaviors- not concerned about the devastation they cause to others nor themselves. Promiscuity, alcoholism, compulsive gambling, drug abuse is familiar to them. This study will reveal that your ex may have a psychopath condition on the loose.

The disorder may be considered mild. People with the said are telling lies or trouble with their partners. But still, it is not a surprise if someone has the said condition are robbers or even murderers.

 

2015 Ontario Psychotherapy Statistics – More Kids Need Help

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Hello. My name is Kaden Smith and I am an aspiring psychotherapist. But would you believe that I used to suffer from depression and anxiety? This is the very reason why I became a psychotherapist – the 2015 Ontario psychotherapy statistics are quite high. I want to help those who I once was; a person who felt helpless and hopeless at times, and very much afraid of things.

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Finding Out That Your Child Is A Sociopath – Therapists Recommend Unconditional Love, Support, And Therapy Treatments

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You think that your child is displaying extremely unusual behavior and that it can be a sign of him or her being a sociopath. Don’t worry much about it. Mental health disorders are a serious matter, but there are now research studies by mental health specialists and therapists. These studies can help you understand how this unusual behavior can affect your child’s life.

Sociopathic disorders in children is a very controversial topic. These symptoms can also be because of a conduct disorder. There is a lot to know about the illness, but don’t jump into any conclusions about the behavior. Anyway, here are early warning signs your child might have been displaying that could tell that he/she has a sociopathic disorder.

They Do Not Care About Consequences.

Kids might disregard the consequences of their actions at one point. Sociopaths are different. They do not have a care in the world whether their actions are affecting themselves and those who surround them. This is very reckless behavior that can turn into dangerous as well. Stealing from family members, compulsive lying, bouts of violence, self-centeredness, and a seeming indifference to looming consequences are just a few of the heartbreaking behaviors parents have to witness firsthand.” says Joseph Lee M.D.

Consequences to them are just threats that their parents are saying and they are not scared of these threats.  They do not care if they offend a person, hurt someone, or disregard their parent’s wishes. To them, they are only doing what they want to do, even if it is a negative thing.

They Constantly Lie Without Feeling Guilty.

 A child may lie once in a while to get away with trouble, but early signs of being a sociopath are when a child frequently lies without any reason. They only do it because they like to and see no reason to be guilty about it. According to psychologist Paul Frick  “Kids with sociopathic tendencies, though, are unrepentant. On a larger scale, this sort of lying without any emotional attachment can be dangerous.”

They might think that hurting someone is healthy or not following their parents is okay. Always lying is nothing because they do not care if their parents get mad.

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They Lack Empathy.

One can be numb over time due to traumatic experiences that led them to that mental state. Again, a sociopath does not have a care in the world, even if something bad could happen to another person. They could do something terrible, like push a playmate or hurt another child. A sociopath would watch the other person suffer without any reaction whatsoever and will not offer any help.

A situation happened when a kid pushed another kid in a hotel pool, sat down on a chair and watch the kid sink to the bottom of the pool without him feeling guilty, scared, or worried. He did not offer any help or called for help.

They Can Be Very Manipulative.

A lot of children can be a bit manipulative in an adorable way. As parents, we often see this as a form of sweetness so they can get what they want but a sociopath being manipulative is different. They can be manipulative without you realizing it because they have thought it through and have calculated each action that you will not even notice. They can be outright authoritative without showing any emotion.

They Display Violence And Rage.

It is usual for a child to display anger, especially when provoked. These sociopath children are showing an alarming rate of violence and rage daily without any reason. In addition to that “The four areas of behavior include aggression to people and animals (e.g. often bullies, threatens, or intimidates others; has been physically cruel to people; has been physically cruel to animals); destruction of property (e.g. fire-setting or destroying property); deceitfulness or theft (e.g. has broken into someone else’s house, building, or car; has stolen items of nontrivial value)“ says Seth Meyers Psy.D. This could be dangerous, especially if your child has other siblings around. They could get hurt and could hurt other children because of this.

It can be hard to grasp for no matter what, you will always love your children and think of the best for them. But you cannot deny these actions if they are still on display and other people are noticing them.

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These are the signs in which your child could be a sociopath. It will be hard to admit to yourself, but it all starts with you. If your child is displaying these symptoms, it is time you get the help you and your child needs. Do not think about the embarrassment or humiliation that you and your child could experience but think about getting your child to be better. This is not just for you and your family, but for the people around you as well.

Luckily, new medical research is looking for ways on how to treat a child that is a sociopath and can even prevent these early warning signs from becoming a sociopathic disorder. You will get the right help you need so that your child could normally live, just like any loving and caring child. You might think this is irreversible, but that is not true. Today, a lot has been developed, including how to treat mental disorder. With the right treatment and comprehensive therapy, your child could lead a healthy life and grow up to be the right person.

Psychologists Suggest Getting A Hobby For Improved Mental Health

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Dealing With A Bipolar Lover 101

Falling in love with the right person can feel like you have won a lot of things in this life. However, it can also be problematic especially if you start to notice that the one you love and care for has been hiding a secret from you. At the same time, you may also find yourself in a situation where your partner suddenly turns out to be someone who is not. It can be heartbreaking if you do not know how to handle a situation – especially if you are already planning to start a family.

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Sociopathic Behaviors Of Most YouTubers

We love watching YouTubers in their videos almost every week. Most of the times, we even subscribe to their channels and follow their pages. That’s because we get overwhelmed and interested with their talents, charisma, sense of style, personality, and a lot more. But have we questioned ourselves about what makes them different? In this article, we’ll try to discuss why most YouTubers are classified as sociopaths.

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YouTube is a playground for YouTubers. It’s a place where they can perform and act differently in front of the camera. And since a lot of the characteristic of a sociopath fits almost well with a lot of these people, it makes better sense why they gain so much attention.

Charismatic But Manipulative

Many YouTubers are charismatic and charming. Almost all of them look so good when it comes to physical appearance. However, in some cases, it doesn’t always depend on their looks. It’s somehow due to the manipulative ability they have that makes them stand out more than the others. It is more about manipulating the audience and hiding them.

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Risk-Takers But Irresponsible

A lot of YouTubers are mostly risk-takers but irresponsible. With all due respect with their habits and personality, some of them don’t seem to care about dangerous and harmful acts. Sometimes, they even cause damage to properties. They also cause others serious injuries as well as to their selves. Some YouTubers content videos are offensive and degrading. Though most of it is made with peaceful and good intentions, it gets misjudged due to the deliverance and choice of words.

Entertaining Lies

A lot of YouTubers create a video that internationally aims for thousands of views. Most of the time, they merely create something out of a lie to get recognition. Similar to a sociopath, YouTubers are not even trying to make it seem like a truth anymore. There is always this part of their creation that leads it to untruthfulness. But then again, since these people are good at manipulation, everybody seems to take everything in and believe it.

Intriguing But Lacks Emotion

In all honesty, it’s difficult for a viewer to know if a YouTuber is personally involved with his video creations. That’s because they somehow leave this impression that not all of it is true. Though we sometimes see them happy playing and goofing around, they sometimes end up not wanting to share personal feelings unto it. As a result, some videos are not that interesting and end up boring at some point. Aside from that, YouTubers often show tons of emotions on their videos which make it hard for viewers to understand the difference of real and scripted emotional approach.

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Well, no scientific explanation will back up the claim that YouTubers are sociopaths. However, the traits and qualities of the said sociopathic characteristics might shed light on some of it. Perhaps some YouTubers can relate to what the mental condition has to show them. But please note, the equal signs and symptoms are still inaccurate diagnosis. Therefore, they still need medical health assistance for its ascertainment.

Psychology: How To Handle A Sociopath Ex 

One of the saddest and frustrating events that can happen in your life is getting hurt because of failed relationships or marriages. It is going to break your heart to find out that the one you love has betrayed you or has caused some emotional suffering. You will find it difficult to move on because of several factors that you need to address first.

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